The Unstable Atom

Reflecting over life through weird, crazy, ever changing, euphoric, absurd, confused and at times impartial lenses -a journey of curiosity and questions with my two alter egos.. as I try to fall out of the stagnation of instability.. or the desperate attempt to remain..

Not sure if i've written about "end of an era" already hence there is "end of another era".

So there. Another year is almost coming to an end and so is one of my journeys. I wrote about some stuff in Jan and lots happened since then. I did get a different perspective and that still stays for which I'm glad. It went on for quite some time. I got in touch with old friends developed long given-up friendships, resolved tiffs and so on. I decided to travel once a month no matter where. Ended up doing 2 treks (thank god for the proximity of Delhi to the mountains!). Both were good experiences. One with an unknown group of people with India Hikes and one with some colleagues. More about these in later posts.

Between the two treks i happened to court someone. It was not looked out for. Something that just came along. I had my inhibitions and some strong intuition against this. Though as usual (like an idiot) i ignored it and thought of giving it a try. Over the course of a few days things changed a bit for the better. We took the next step in the "relationship" though there was always this nagging thought at the back of my head that something isn't right. It felt as if i was doing things just for the sake of it my heart wasn't into it. It was just as if to have someone around. I kept ignoring it thinking its nothing. Then I had to go through the ordeal of searching for a house to move to and the actual moving out and moving in. The moving out took a toll on me. I went through immense mental and physical strain. Letting go of a very close friend and the first house i lived in in Delhi NCR was heart wrenching. No matter a tiff between us owing to my "relationship". I put that behind but eventually i started drifting apart. It just didn't feel good. He tried to sort it out and to help the best he could, but it just wasn't enough nor at the time in the right manner. As usual the person wasn't a bad person but not meant for me. And so after 2-3 months i put an end to the whirlwind full-fledged romance (not that it was even close to it). It was quite a relief somehow. Though i feel like a cruel person to have cut him off that way there was no other way to end it. Stretch it and it would've ended even worse. Perhaps that's my consolation for myself but that's that.
I think there is a lot about energies going on always. Its like two people are good individually but put them together and they will create negativity and harm for each other. Perhaps this is what i had sensed early on. The wavelength just didn't match and when you are at a different level in life after the experiences you've had its difficult to have a person so fresh in life around as support. They just don't get it. Or maybe its not about the experiences they've had just about the thinking capacity and maturity. It was a difficult phase. All in all that was that. Another chapter closed.

Along the course of the past few months i realized very strongly about how fickle life is. This urged me to think about moving back home to my parents and close ones. Also, given the news from home about illness and what not pushed me further. Just as i began looking for options to move back home I was given a generous offer from my employer. It was like a dream come true since i really like doing the work i am now. i can't thank my company enough for this. Though is a two way street, some good deeds do come back to payoff maybe. And so after almost 2 years, i will be saying goodbye to my second home.

Its such a bitter-sweet feeling. I had come to call it home. It is my second home. A home made of the people i gathered.
So much happened in a year and 8 months. I used to visit back home but used to yearn to come back here. The office, friends, roommates, daily commute, shopping, making new friends, taking care of the house, hanging out, work related stuff, exploring places on my own, the army camp and horse riding, learning things about people and places, having ginger over, having my best friends over, the first house (i really miss it like mad!).. Buying my bed, decorating the room, cooking, hanging out with roomies, problems, solutions, laughter, crying, yelling, fighting, trips, drunken foolishness, saying goodbye to one of them earlier on and the the second, saying goodbye to the house :(, There is so much! So many memories in such a short time.. Time just flew by! Its not really goodbye cause i will keep visiting. There is a sense of nostalgia hanging around for quite some time now and i think it will go on for a while. It was my first time after all! :') There indeed is a lot that will take away from this place.. It shall stay within me forever. :) A big call out to everyone, each and every person who i met here, who supported me in times of need and otherwise. You made me a better person. I will write more perhaps later.. too much to reconcile as of now..

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